"A bad boss is a disease of the soul"
Jack welch
How true is this? Very...
And if you are interested in the movie by the same name, I would recommend it. it's a beautifully scripted movie coupled by splendid acting.
And if you are interested in the movie by the same name, I would recommend it. it's a beautifully scripted movie coupled by splendid acting.
You spend 1/3rd of your adult life in a job. So all those poseurs saying that their job is just a means for subsistence are actually frittering away their a third of life. I'd be alarmed and I'd stay away.
Equally important is the role of a 'Boss' in your life. Anybody who has achieved anything in this life in a sustainable and long term manner would attest to that fact. We do need a role model, don't we?
I spent an afternoon getting my ears traumatized hearing the travails of my friend.
He went on and on about how fucked up his job was, how painful his life and on and on...
I normally hate spending my time like this. But he is a friend and I had to help, but sadly I couldn't. The fact he is my friend doesn't mean he' got his priorities right. I know his tendency to shrink from work, and be on the lookout for the next big opportunity. He lacks focus and doesn't love anything in this world at all.
The fact I wrote that doesn't absolve / indict his boss or make my friend a lesser person in my eyes. He daily drove freaking 20 KM to pick me up for tutions which normally he'd have bunked during my college days. I love him to bits.
However this bit is for people who don't quite get the meaning of 'the job'. Since it is nearly 1/3rd of your adult life this piece is also a bit about 'The Life'. People don't quite get it. The ones who get it don't spread it. It is a world's best kept secret that you reward behavior not talent in case you had to pick one of the two. In a ideal case you'd expect both from a person.
Look at Steve Jobs if you don't believe me. He got thrown out of his own company.
People don't realise that they THEY and only THEY are responsible for the up and downs of their life, including their professional life.
So if you feel your boss is bad and the job sucks its because you chose to be within this mess. If you are not smart enough to bail out or if you have not managed to build a productive environment with your boss it's your fault. It would be worthwhile to look inside yourselves too!
The world' a tough tough place. At every level there are people stuck in their jobs, unable to figure the 'what next' and 'how' of life. You need to be able to deal with these types and if you can help them. Be sure they will help you too.
'Professionalism'. People take ages to learn it's meaning. This is something which people or your boss would never teach you. You have to figure out yourself. And once you do, you have to see if the environment where you work, promotes it and rewards it. I didn't write 'The company' or 'the HR' simply because they really don't matter. it 'The Enivorment' meaning your boss or whoever you feel is the stakeholder.
I love what I do, whatever it is. If I don't, I usually bail out quickly (even in the matters of the heart!). Often I am derided when I feel frustrated with it. For me the entire point is stupid.
There are people I love. How many time have I not been cross at the same people? Does that mean I start hating them now? Similarly my job frustrates me, challenges me and sometimes drives me mad. It definitely doesn't mean I don't love doing it. In fact it simply make it more humane for me.
Very often people don't get this.
This brings me to the topic of the day: The Boss. Being a boss is very much akin to being an entrepreneur. It involves having vision, taking risks, growing people, getting performance, ability to put your own ideas into place and being responsible for your own people.
The last one is a tricky one.
People often (esp newbies or fachhhas) often mistake their bosses for their parents. So if there's an issue with their cab, or if they have issues with finance, or if they want a nappy change they run to him.
You must realize that the only thing a boss is expected to take care of is your career and mentoring. For the rest HR is specifically created for such things.
Being a boss also means being a leader. His job is also to groom people, recognize your aptitude and to mentor his wards appropriately. Most of the conflict arise when your Boss fails in the above mentioned aspects...
or...
you dont have grip on your own capabilities and temper your expectations. A majority of people do not have an idea of the path they wish to tread. Mostly they do things because the rest of the world is doing the same and they are mainly driven by herd mentality.
If you don't trust your Boss with the career path he elects for you then it is time for change. If you find yourselves changing job every other year, then stand on your head till you figure whats wrong.
No matter how unpleasant a person is, I have found that if you make his life easier he is bound to reward you. Lots of people are shit at reading people. Personally nothing' more fascinating to me. It comes with practice, experience and some falls.
I am bored now and hence (thankfully!) I am going to summarize.
If in general you can't understand or trust your boss or have any inclination to do so, stop working. You are not going to make it far. Note: Trust does not mean 'Not challenge' or 'Don't Ask'.
If you don't have an idea and do not care about where you want to head professionally stop working.
If you in general hate being in a job and the monotonous (it' only monotonous because you are not brilliant) routine, stop working.
If you are not proud of what you've done (Of course you dont have to shove whatever you've done under people's noses) stop working
I have theory. Anybody who's not good at having good relationships in office must also suck in his personal life. Because the main pillars for any professional life is being patient, being selfless and understanding people. I can't believe you could be good at one and not at another.
Of course that how you make your bonus.
I spent an afternoon getting my ears traumatized hearing the travails of my friend.
He went on and on about how fucked up his job was, how painful his life and on and on...
I normally hate spending my time like this. But he is a friend and I had to help, but sadly I couldn't. The fact he is my friend doesn't mean he' got his priorities right. I know his tendency to shrink from work, and be on the lookout for the next big opportunity. He lacks focus and doesn't love anything in this world at all.
The fact I wrote that doesn't absolve / indict his boss or make my friend a lesser person in my eyes. He daily drove freaking 20 KM to pick me up for tutions which normally he'd have bunked during my college days. I love him to bits.
However this bit is for people who don't quite get the meaning of 'the job'. Since it is nearly 1/3rd of your adult life this piece is also a bit about 'The Life'. People don't quite get it. The ones who get it don't spread it. It is a world's best kept secret that you reward behavior not talent in case you had to pick one of the two. In a ideal case you'd expect both from a person.
Look at Steve Jobs if you don't believe me. He got thrown out of his own company.
People don't realise that they THEY and only THEY are responsible for the up and downs of their life, including their professional life.
So if you feel your boss is bad and the job sucks its because you chose to be within this mess. If you are not smart enough to bail out or if you have not managed to build a productive environment with your boss it's your fault. It would be worthwhile to look inside yourselves too!
The world' a tough tough place. At every level there are people stuck in their jobs, unable to figure the 'what next' and 'how' of life. You need to be able to deal with these types and if you can help them. Be sure they will help you too.
'Professionalism'. People take ages to learn it's meaning. This is something which people or your boss would never teach you. You have to figure out yourself. And once you do, you have to see if the environment where you work, promotes it and rewards it. I didn't write 'The company' or 'the HR' simply because they really don't matter. it 'The Enivorment' meaning your boss or whoever you feel is the stakeholder.
I love what I do, whatever it is. If I don't, I usually bail out quickly (even in the matters of the heart!). Often I am derided when I feel frustrated with it. For me the entire point is stupid.
There are people I love. How many time have I not been cross at the same people? Does that mean I start hating them now? Similarly my job frustrates me, challenges me and sometimes drives me mad. It definitely doesn't mean I don't love doing it. In fact it simply make it more humane for me.
Very often people don't get this.
This brings me to the topic of the day: The Boss. Being a boss is very much akin to being an entrepreneur. It involves having vision, taking risks, growing people, getting performance, ability to put your own ideas into place and being responsible for your own people.
The last one is a tricky one.
People often (esp newbies or fachhhas) often mistake their bosses for their parents. So if there's an issue with their cab, or if they have issues with finance, or if they want a nappy change they run to him.
You must realize that the only thing a boss is expected to take care of is your career and mentoring. For the rest HR is specifically created for such things.
Being a boss also means being a leader. His job is also to groom people, recognize your aptitude and to mentor his wards appropriately. Most of the conflict arise when your Boss fails in the above mentioned aspects...
or...
you dont have grip on your own capabilities and temper your expectations. A majority of people do not have an idea of the path they wish to tread. Mostly they do things because the rest of the world is doing the same and they are mainly driven by herd mentality.
If you don't trust your Boss with the career path he elects for you then it is time for change. If you find yourselves changing job every other year, then stand on your head till you figure whats wrong.
No matter how unpleasant a person is, I have found that if you make his life easier he is bound to reward you. Lots of people are shit at reading people. Personally nothing' more fascinating to me. It comes with practice, experience and some falls.
I am bored now and hence (thankfully!) I am going to summarize.
If in general you can't understand or trust your boss or have any inclination to do so, stop working. You are not going to make it far. Note: Trust does not mean 'Not challenge' or 'Don't Ask'.
If you don't have an idea and do not care about where you want to head professionally stop working.
If you in general hate being in a job and the monotonous (it' only monotonous because you are not brilliant) routine, stop working.
If you are not proud of what you've done (Of course you dont have to shove whatever you've done under people's noses) stop working
I have theory. Anybody who's not good at having good relationships in office must also suck in his personal life. Because the main pillars for any professional life is being patient, being selfless and understanding people. I can't believe you could be good at one and not at another.
Of course that how you make your bonus.
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